Fleur de Aleta

Three funerals and a wedding.  We have it backwards from the movie, but that ’s life sometimes, right?  Greg's dad's funeral was the third one within 2 weeks.  I felt that my father-in-law was there, listening, laughing and sending his love, as we grieved and spoke of him and his bride.  Greg gave a loving eulogy for his dad, sharing about how his dad was a pillar of kindness for his family, community and church.  He actually had us laughing at the end, which won’t surprise anyone if they know Greg.  Bet his dad was laughing in heaven too and saying, “Good one, son!” as he listened.     The night before the service, Gregory told me he wanted to say something about Grandfather.  He asked what he should write.  I said, “Think about your earliest memory and your most recent things you did with Grandfather and go from there.”  He showed me what he wrote later, “But I want to add that he was a great guy.”  i replied, “You don’t have to, because you already showed in what you wrote.”

It’s been a difficult time.  Three deaths that affected my dad, my husband and a close family friend.  I was a spinning top, turning and twisting to offer support, love and hugs wherever needed.  So many emotions and comfort to offer, pulling in different directions all at the same time..    My Dad’s Aunt, my great aunt, Gregory’s great, great aunt Lillian passed away at the age of 93, right before her September birthday.  She was the last remaining of my grandmother’s siblings (8 siblings).  My dad hurt to see her the week before she passed away.  Dad said, “Aunt Lillian was my favorite aunt on my mom’s side.  My mom was serious in nature, but Aunt Lillian, you never knew what she would get into!”  Dad and Aunt Lillian’s son smiled as they brought up happy memories, especially how she loved to do the jitterbug.  Dad wrote a beautiful letter to go with the flower arrangements at her funeral.  When at the funeral visitation, I couldn’t help but notice that Aunt Lillian had a sweet smile